1. Your skin may never be perfect, and that’s okay.
2. Life is too short not to have the underwear, the coffee, and the haircut you want.
3. Everyone (including your family, your coworkers, and your best friend) will talk about you behind your back, and you’ll talk about them too. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other.
4. It’s okay to spend money on things that make you happy.
5. Sometimes without fault or reason, relationships deteriorate. It will happen when you’re six, it will happen when you’re sixty. That’s life.❞
Everyone adapts to residency differently and in their own way. I personally, tend to be outwardly smooth so people often can not really tell if I am anxious, nervous, or internally flailing. I think this may have helped, in some regard, because as the situation around me devolves I can maintain a presence of control and authority, despite often wanting to join the fray of knee-jerk reactions and escalation.
Residency, and life in general as a resident, is very emotionally taxing. Having balance and the ability to decompress is important. Having hobbies, activities, and a life outside the hospital is important, but maintaining relationships or activities that are enjoyable takes compromise. I may enjoy running, but spending an hour every day and a couple hours on the weekend simply is not very realistic. Adjusting my perspective and goals has helped. I still find time to do the things I enjoy, just it doesn’t define me in the way it did formerly.
It is natural to have anxiety. Playing the guessing game and focusing on “what-ifs,” however, can make this problematic. Learning how to address anxiety, be direct, and address things that create anxiety helps to overcome.❞